Today Hadif and I went to Kak Yam and Abang Adly’s lovely home in the eastern part of Singapore. Which is officially, his 3rd house after visiting both of his grandparents’.
The sudden visit stemmed as Kak Yam mentioned that she would like to visit us to see baby Hadif. I felt honoured to host such a guest but I also knew that I had to go over instead. To me, it is out of respect, for a junior to travel to her senior and of course, a reason for me to go out with Hadif – a short self care session to fulfill my social needs and strengthen my support system. Alhamdulillah for the health and strength to make today happen.
Initially, doubt crept at every corner of my heart as wise and older individuals advised me against going out with a 2 month old baby especially in this covid situation. Understandably. Operations wise, I knew how troublesome it is to bring a tiny human out especially if he is not well rested and starts to cry. Gaaaah. I remembered the short trip to my sister’s wedding gown fitting appointment which was only a 10 minute drive from home lasting for only 2 hours but somehow, I managed to experience outdoor breastfeeding twice and 2 diaper changes. Busy Hadif is busy. :’) Alhamdulillah nonetheless.
Putting those advices and past experience into consideration, I still felt that I could manage this mini outing. I believe that I had to start somewhere and build what little confidence I have of myself to bring Hadif out. I truly appreciate the advices though ❤ Barakallahu feekum.
I mentally prepared myself on the possible scenarios of the trip and packed accordingly. But I needed more courage so I sought my go-to helpline, Mama Kienz, to accompany me. My love language has got to be acts of services and quality time as I felt so loved when she said that she would come with me after work and even ran errands like buying female care essentials when I ran out of those, hours before coming over to Kak Yam’s place. She is just so mashaAllah. When I see how gentle she is with the kids, drawing smiles on them with her laidback and sunny disposition and going out of her way to extend a helping hand to cook for them – allowing the mother a breather, I get motivated to emulate her. Ya Allah, I do not know how to repay her beautiful kindness, but I know that she will always cross my mind whenever I doa ❤ (Semoga Allah jodohkan dengan insan yang baik hati sepertimu <3)
The mini outing was also something I looked forward to as I needed some advice from experienced mothers. This is something that I find really valuable – the company of friends who willingly and proactively give sound advice as I embark motherhood. These people are gems. MashaAllah, alhamdulillah.
So Kak Yam has always been one of my inspirations in the area of baitul muslim (muslim marriage and family) and one of the many things I really look up to and hope to follow is the teamwork between her and Abang Adly. The support of a husband in our endeavors is so important and I hope that sisters out there would take such a characteristic into consideration when choosing a potential life partner. ❤
I finally arrived at her house which sheltered us from a heavy downpour and gave me some time to rest after battling a sleepy baby who cried his lungs out as we were about to leave the house plus a long 30 minutes taxi ride. Somehow, carrying a ticking baby bomb made the journey felt longer haha.
It was as usual, so peaceful…her lovely home made me feel at ease despite kids running around and making a mess – something that is important for their development. The familiar sight instantly made me recall wonderful usrah and qiyam memories with my girls. Ahh…May Allah bless each of them wherever they are. The little ones crowded around Hadif when I arrived. They are so precious mashaAllah ❤ I still cannot believe that little Isya is 2 years old now and that Auni is already in Primary 2? Howwwww. :’)
Not forgetting, wani, a wonderful fellow stay at home mummy that I dearly love. She brought along her 11 month old handsome Amirul Mukhlis mashaAllah. It was so heartwarming as I observed Amirul crawling around. So adorable mashaAllah! So happy to see both of you ❤
As I reflect, wani has been an important character in my life. She was there, witnessing my growth as a young adult back when we had monthly usrahs at Masjid Kampung Siglap. She was there, cheering me on as I struggled to complete my 4 years in university, having completed her own. Come to think of it, we embarked and consulted each other throughout each stage of life. From choosing a husband, marriage, pregnancy and now – motherhood.
MashaAllah. Truly God-sent. Thank you wani, for the past, present and inshaAllah future.
I am really moved by what happened today. It was brief. But it made me so thankful for everything.
Taking inspiration from each of them, their struggles and drive to be better, I am reminded that with Allah by our side, there is nothing too big or too scary to overcome. InshaAllah.
May Allah bless our friendship and may He ease all of our affairs. ❤ ❤ ❤
Diarinsyirah 