Alhamdulillah for today! Saturdays like these makes me feel so thankful for “me time”. We went to Labrador Park and it’s super nice! It took us 30 minutes to casually walk from the MRT to the shelter. But the journey via the Berlayer Creek Boardwalk was lovely as we were surrounded by a healthy green foliage and thus so sooo therapeutic~
Then Kak N suggested to recce Woodlands too (one of the other options we had in mind). Chanced upon VIPs at mcdonald’s. Saw F first and that was when it hit me that hey, it’s them! MashaAllah small world. We walked around the Mega Park and concluded that it was too hot for the children and renovation works were ongoing. Really hope Nparks will approve our Labrador Park booking. Bismillah.
Ended the day by finishing this long overdue book!
Borrowed this book during Salam SG at Tampines library. That was so long ago kan.. :’) I renewed it and was due today.
The first half of the book guides readers on best practices relating to how to choose Mr/Miss Right, the taaruf (getting to know the person), khitbah (engagement), nikah and walimah processes. Too lengthy to summarise here huhu. Go read the book!
My favourite takeaways from this book:
- The author continues to emphasize greatly about preparation of self in all aspects of life (similar to first book) – beyond materialistic prep like $$. E.g: how does one inculcate good values within the household if one does not portray it in his/her actions? Good prep will guide one to better decisions.
- Marriage does not automatically change a person. One should not expect to be better right after marriage because change requires time.
- Relationship with parents is key. It starts now! Make them happy, earn their trust. It’ll be easier for you to bring up the topic of marriage and have good discussions and guidance.
- He drives home that perfection (sempurna) belongs to only Allah. Our task is to merely strive towards it.
- Importance of the intent of marriage. i.e Allah’s redha. This will guide and continue to motivate us throughout the journey.
- Marriage is essentially an institution that is essential for the upbringing of the ummah. It’s not a 2 person journey. And even when the family gets bigger, we do not want it to be just any kind of family like how Rasulullah s.a.w describes “seperti buih di lautan”. We strive to be a family that contributes to the Ummah. ❤
- According to Stephen Covey in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Always begin with the end in mind. It makes it easier to work towards a specific goal than to #goje without direction. In the case of marriage, Jannah is the goal. So every detail and step is so important because we cannot afford to waste any time.
Awesome and beneficial read!
Semoga Insyirah dan semua yang membaca ni semangat selalu ye~ Single or married, end goal tetap penting untuk dikecapi ya!
Diarinsyirah 