Disclaimer: I did not manage to attend this talk. All these points were shared by Athirah and my neighbour. May Allah bless the both of you immensely!
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In light of Muharram, Anse Tamara reminded us 3 things which we should evaluate as we enter a new islamic year.
- Quality of our Solatul Fardh
It is the basic, most fundamental strength which keeps one grounded and reminded about Allah. Hence the pillar of religion. 5 times a day with our Creator to keep a constant check on ourselves…
2. Maintain solatul tahajjud
A very hard discipline but surely one that shall break us away from the shackles of our nafs – kes nak tidur balik etc
3. Have good manners
Anisah emphasized on having good manners especially towards our family members. A powerful reminder indeed.
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There were also some points about having a happy heart.
- Have the correct intent and purpose in life
- Have a good companion (Story of Umar r.a below)
In summary, the main points to achieve a happy heart is to find our Umar (companion), our purpose and a goal in life.
Umar ibn Al-Khattab and two other Companions, Ayyash ibn Abi Rabiah and Hisham ibn Al-Aas (may Allah be pleased with them) planned to migrate from Makkah to Madinah together. Abu jahal was the bitter enemy of Islam and Ayyash’s half-brother. He came for one purpose, to pull and drag Ayyash out of his religion.
Umar demonstrated the type of friendship which is missing today. Despite Ayyash making the wrong decisions and ignoring Umar’s advice, Umar still remained friends with Ayyash and prayed for his success. Even when Ayyash trusted Abu Jahal more, making the decision to return home, Umar gave Ayyash his camel to protect him from Abu Jahal. For years he was hoping and praying that Ayyash won’t be lost.
From this we can see how loving, forgiving, and not judgmental Umar is as a person. Very often we don’t go to get advice (due to pride etc) and we get influenced by emotion and fears. Hence, we need to find a companion (can be more than one) who tell you things you don’t want to hear but they tell you with love. They stand by you even if you respond in the meanest of way and one who prays for you even when you ‘disappear’. A companion is also someone who has the same goals and direction in life.
As a companion ourselves, we should stop waiting to see what people do for us before helping them. It’s easy to be good to people who are kind to us, but it is difficult to smile at those who do not reciprocate. That’s part of being patient, doing the right thing and being forgiving in a strong and gentle way regardless of the follow up. We are in a time where we want to do one quick thing to solve all the problem but that’s not how life works. At this age and time, we have to think very deeply of the concept of our companions who walk with us.
Holding on to the Quran is a good advice when we’re still looking for a companion. Because Quran should be another companion in addition to an Umar in your life. One tip is to be an Umar ourselves. If you become an Umar, Umar will come to you – if you are good to others, you will attract good people. InshaAllah!
Q & A After The Sharing
Can our Umar be a Non-Muslim?
- As much as you’re close to the person, there will come a point in time when he/she would not be able to understand you especially with regards to our faith.
Can our Umar be someone from the LGBTQ?
- An Umar is someone who brings us closer to Allah
- We are not believers who submit to lust
- We are believers who submit to Allah
If you noticed, Anse Tamara does not answer questions in a yes and no manner. Her answers are those that make one evaluate and sort of “tepuk dada tanya iman” kind.
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Dear future husband, if we ever have a son, can we name him Umar pretty please? :’)
Okk main point!
Be an Umar.
Be stern and firm upon the deen but also be caring enough and selfless about wanting the best for our companions ❤
Diarinsyirah 
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